Wednesday, 23 September 2015

20 Things I've Learnt By 20

I'm 20 years old next week (29th September if you wanna wish me happy birthday!) and for some reason I'm having a bit of a crisis about it. Now, 20 is no where near old but I think I wasn't ready for how much I've loved being a teenager and 20 just feels so grown up. Where have my teenage years gone?! I'm not ready to grow up and have my own house with plants that I have to look after so that they don't shrivel and die. Anyway, before I go off on a tangent. Here are 20 things I've learnt before turning 20.

1. Don't fight for someone that's not worth it
This may mean friends or boys or whatever. If someone can't be bothered with you and won't make the effort, fuck them. I've had my share of awful friendships in my life and looking back I wonder what the hell I was doing even giving those people my time. I've learnt to love the people who are loyal to me and sack off the people who just have you as a placeholder.

2. Losing an animal is one of the hardest things
I am a huge animal lover and can't remember a time in my life when I haven't had one. I know having a pet you sort of come to terms with the fact that they aren't going to outlive you. That doesn't make it any easier when they go, it still breaks your heart.

3. Treat yourself
I am a huge saver and even if it's a fiver a week, I still feel proud that I've put it away. I'm saving to move out currently, but if I see a £20 lipstick that I desperately want, I'll get it. I'm working my arse off to earn money and so I deserve a treat. Whether it's a £50 perfume or a £1 chocolate bar, I deserve it.

4. Spend time with those you love
I've not moved out yet, but I know when I do, I'll appreciate my parents even more. Sometimes when I've not had a girly day with my mum in a while or sat down and watched a movie with my dad, I realise just how much I miss it. Sometimes it's worth missing a night out with your friends to make your mums night and give her all your attention, I know mine does.

5. Nobody remembers that embarassing thing you did when you were 13.
So many times I'll be trying to sleep and then just a random memory of a cringeworthy event will pop into my head. Why did I tell my brothers bestfriend that I fancied him when I was 10? I bet he thinks I'm such a loser. Nope, probably doesn't remember, get over it.

6. Take pride in what you do
Whether you're at uni, a stay at home mom, a scientist or a supermarket worker, take pride in it. I used to love telling people I worked at Pets At Home because they would be so interested in it and I make sure when people tell me what they do, I ask them about it. I always show pride in what I do, because I work hella hard for it. Fuck those who look down on you, be proud of what you do.

7. Love yourself
I think this is a huge one. I have battled with my weight my whole life and there's always been something I hate. I stopped comparing myself to everyone around me and realised that I am who I am. If I don't like something, I'm the only one who can change it so I may as well love it and accept it. So love yourself ladies.

8. Take time out to read
I read all the time growing up and when I discovered YouTube, I seemed to stop reading. Everything became digital and I slowed down on my reading. I've just fully got back into it and I'm so happy I have. There's nothing better in this world that running a bubble bath, putting on a face mask and reading a great book.

9. Do your makeup however you want.
I hate when I see those stupid posts on facebook about girls tricking boys with their makeup. I wear makeup because I love how it makes my face look and I don't think anyone. If they are dumb enough to think I have a black eyelid and fuschia lips, that's their dumb fault.

10. Pubs are better than clubs
When my friends ask me to come out, I'm so much happier when they suggest going to pubs and bars rather than clubbing. I hate when you get all dressed up just to stand in a sweaty bar, get groped and pay a fiver for a watered down vodka. Also, you don't often get happy hour in clubs!

11. Christmas will always be exciting
Whether you're 5 or 50, Christmas is so great. There's such a happiness in the air and everything is so jolly. I'm so excited for Christmas this year and it's only September! Plus, I use it as an excuse to eat as much food as humanly possible.

12. Bleaching your hair is never a good idea
I am a natural redhead and so I think this applies to me maybe more so. I have dyed my hair every colour under the sun, but the worst one was blonde. Don't get me wrong, I thought I looked great at the time. It destroyed my hair and it literally broke off at the root. It took me almost 2 years to get it to any resemblance of a healthy head of hair. Damn you bleach.

13. You're never too old for Disney
I mean who cares if you're 60 years old and sat doing your knitting watching Mulan. I adore Disney, it reminds me of my childhood and revokes so many happy feelings. Disney is just something everyone can love, old or new.

14. Learning to cook/bake is a skill worth having
I still live at home with my parents kill me and sometimes it's nice to come home and tell them that they can relax, I'll be cooking. Or, if I have nothing to do on a Sunday, I'll make cupcakes. The look of delight on my boyfriends face the first time I made him cupcakes was worth the hour I'd spent decorating them. I love seeing peoples reaction when I cook for them and they love it. Plus, who doesn't love filling their home with the smell of brownies.

15. Yes, your period is always an excuse
I hate when your angry and someone goes "are you on your period?" No, but I will still punch you in the face. However, when I am actually on my period I will use that excuse to no end. Do I need to eat another chocolate bar? Yes, I'm on my period. Did I need to shout at my boyfriend because he forgot to bring me more chocolate? Yes, I'm on my period. Does everyone need to stop bitching that they need the toilet and I've been in the bath for 2 hours? Yes, I'm on my period.

17. I love and hate liquid liner
Liquid liner is a beauty. It can make any look pop and make you oh so glamourous. It's also a giant bitch and there's nothing worse that doing a whole eye look and then having to redo it because your eyeliner went terribly wrong. 20 years has not been long enough to perfect the wing of my eyeliner.

18. Sometimes you just need to do nothing
Often, during the summer holidays, I would do days on end doing nothing and loving it. When I started being an adult and having a full-time job, I felt doing nothing on my days off was a waste. Now that I've been working full-time for a while, I appreciate days off when I have absolutely nothing to do and I can binge watch Friends in my pjs.

19. Holidays are worth saving for
Whether it be a week in Ayia Napa with your girl, a weekend away to Paris with your partner or just a night or two in another city, holidays are worth it. Whether they're expensive or cheap, it's so worth it to save a bit of money and take a break from reality. You can visit your dream places and make so many memories.

20. Be patient
I am so bad at this and I think this is something I'm still learning. When I decided I didn't want to go to uni and didn't know what to do with my life, I was scared. Being an apprentice at 19 is scary because I have a long way to go and I made sacrifices to give myself a better future in the longrun. I'm so impatient because I just want to be in the career I want. Whether it's for your career, or just leaving those muffins in 5 more minutes in the oven (can you tell I'm hungry while writing this post) it's important that you be patient and let things happen when they are meant to happen.

Do you guys agree with any of these? What's the most important life lesson you've learnt? I'm off to rewatch The Office all over again.

Til' next time! XOXO


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